Dear At the Fence:

I am the father of a thirteen year old son which I also have custody of for
six years now. His mother remarried about three years ago. Since they
have been married, my son has constantly complained that the step father is
verbally abusive to him, is resentful when my son is around & although the
step father hasn't hit him yet, he has been violent while my son is there.

This past weekend he made my son cry because his mother bought him two pairs of pants. His step father feels that since I have custody & that they pay $50 a month child support that his mother & him should do nothing more and he constantly verbally abuses my son because of it. My son has expressed
that he does not want to visit his mother anymore while the husband is
around. I feel I should go to court to modify the present visitation order
but I would like to know what my chances are of getting a order that
restricts visitation with my ex's husband around? Please, if you have any
advice for me, I would really appreciate it. 

Concerned Dad

Dear Concerned Dad:

It's worth a try. Your son is old enough to give testimony to the judge about his feelings in this matter.  I'm not an attorney, but talk to one. Be aware, though, that abusers can be very vindictive and he may find a way to get back at you. But, in the best interest of your son, you have to try.

Good Luck

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