The Verbally Abusive
Relationship by Patricia Evans --Identifies different forms of verbal abuse and gives suggestions for
responding.
When Love Goes Wrong by Ann Jones
and Susan Schecter --
Basic information concerning
abuse, how to help, how to survive.
Abuse Shelter Hotline
1-800-799-7233 |
Dear At the
Fence:
I've been with my
partner for 13 years. He's always unpredictable with his moods. Sometimes he is nasty
towards the 3 children we have and I hate him for this. He tried to strangle me three
years ago after drinking. But he hasn't hit me again since but I'm worried incase it
happens again and does this mean he's abusive.
Please help
I'm confused.
Dear
Confused:
Yes, it means he's
abusive. There is much more to abuse than the physical stuff, and being mean to the
children and using his moods to dominate the family is a form of abuse. I would imagine
that there are other forms of abuse going on, too. Does he control the money, not want you
to have contact with friends or family, use his temper to make you afraid so you will do
what he wants, expect you to cater to his every desire, etc.
I'd suggest that you
talk with other women who have been abused, or read some books on the types of abuse.
There are more articles on this site that might help: The
Cycle of Abuse, Why People Stay in Abusive
Relationships, and The Abusive Personality
You can get
information about support groups by calling this number: 1-800-799-7233. Some helpful
books are listed at left:
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